Duit suami lain duit isteri lain?

I am triggered to write this post after readng one of my following blog wrote about wife should not helping husband for bread winning.

Okay, I dont agree. Looking from my perspective and my current family situation, i am not agree with that statement. I am not sure about other women who have an asshole husbands.

When I met my husband, during our early phase of relationship, he always pay for our food. We rarely went for shopping together at that time. Slowly i felt discomfort withcthe situation. Because i was looking for a man who can afford his girlfriend and subsequently his wife but with this great man(ececeh..hehe), i feelt it is a not right thing to do.

When i was in a relationship with my ex- boyfriend, he was a thrifty guy..konon.. Kedek beb! Let's say he paid for the lunch, when we want to order drinks, he will say"awak la pulak bayar. Nasi tadi saya dah bayar"... Oh my god! Can u imagine that?

So i left him after few months we were together.

With my husband, masa tu boyfriend lagi la kan. He was so kind. He paid almost for everything till i felt very guilty. Then i started to pay for our dinner or lunch. But he always decline my offer. He will say, takpe abg bayar. He really make me feel 'oh i want this guy so much. He must be my husband. Not other girls' husband!

So slowly we started to work things out together. How to recycle our money till we have enough money to get married. We get married while we were still a student you know?!

So when we start working, we join all our money together in one joint account. But we will put aside some amoun(same amount for both)as our saving in our own account. So the joint account will be akaun cair. It is used to pay bills, rental pay, groceries shopping, loans and for shopping!

And we feel so blessed that whenever we say duit,we will say duit kita instead of duit abg or duit ayg.

There is no issue on nanti husband cari other woman and sia-sia my pengorbanan of sharing money. I am not God and i never know what will happen in the future but. We(husband and me) had and still trying our best to maintain our relationship.

We always remind ourselves:
1. Do not fight for small things.
2. Do not argue for prolong period. 10mins is enough
3. Do not put your ego more than everything. Always apologize.
4. He will try his best to be the best husband as what Islam says
5. I have to try my best to be the best wife as what Islam says.

In shaa Allah if we always doa, carry your responsibility, be fear in God..our marriage is safe.

Ok, good luck readers. U might have different perspective as your partner or spouse might be different from my spouse. But, never regret or disbelief in God. Always doa. In shaa Allah, Allah will make do. In shaa Allah. In shaa Allah.

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Rezeki Allah yang bagi

Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah.

I feel blessed. I managed to adjust my stress level now. I feel happier to come to work now.

Previously rasa serabut bagai but Alhamdulillah, with husband's advices and lead, everything is under control.

Tips?

Doa. Doa. Doa.

Yup. Dont stop praying. There is no hope except to Allah. He is The One who will help u whenever u r in trouble.

Recite quran. I am trying to make a habit to recite Al Waqiah and the third last sentences of Al Baqarah daily. In shaa Allah I will try.my best to istiqamah

It is really soothing after recite quran, doa and tawakkal.

See ya!:)

Spa postponed

Sedey...

I went to tesco ampang last night after maghrib pray. Reached there around 8.30pm. Guess what? It was full house!!!

Oh my...I was so disappointed. Hm.. husband then asked one question.

'Eh the spa offers the service for both male&female is it?'

'Yup'

'No. I don't want you to go there. Look for other place. Jaga aurat.'

*okay*....

Going home

Today I am am shift.
Tomorrow also am shift. But I am taking leave on sunday. Going back to my heaven, Kuala Selangor!

Ohhhhh...I miss my home so much. I havent go home since last month.

Haih...how la my pokok semua..dahla my in law pergi umrah. Of course the house will be left empty...


Oh..cant wait for tomorrow. After work go back straight!!

Kuala Selangor! Wait for me!

Love..

Kih kih...topic gedik.

Ala bukan ada orang baca pun kan?

Actually I posted this story after went through my fb and noted lots of my younger friends are getting married.

Wished them all the best. Marriage is a heaven. But u have to maintain it or it will be your hell though..hehe

Well, this year will be my 7th year of my marriage. How fast time flies!

I have 2 daughters now. My precious other than mu husband.

The memory of meeting my husbans is still fresh in my mind. We met actually in 2003. We were freshies in our first year of life as a medical student.

But we never talked to each other. He already had a girlfriend at that time. And after a while I also had a boyfriend during my second year in medical school.

And another reason is I hated him so much at that time. Haha! Why? Because he bombarded my group with a high tech question while we were presenting our topic during a seminar.
He really pissed me off..

So I'd been avoiding him since then.
Until in 2005 we were accidentally worked together in a community project. Yeah after that somehow i feel so comfortable with him.

He has been such a wonderful bestfriend. Yes. Bestfriend. Until now. He will be there whenever I need him. He wont backstab me. He will do everything for me. He is such a good councillor. He knows what and when to say things that I need to hear. He understands me so well!...oh I love u husband.

Since we have been together, he never let me go anywhere alone. Even to go to my class or for makan. Unless I go with my other friends la.

He will wait patiently in front of my dormitory block to accompany me to class (jalan kaki of course) or bring me out for makan. He will pick me up and send me back. Without fail..

Yeah, that's the word. CONSISTENT.

He loves me consistently since the first day we fall in love.

Yuckss.
Geli heh? Hehe

And that's the reason I left my ex-boyfriend. And I never regret.

I love my husband so much. We are so clinging together and we will spend sometimes together no matter how busy we are. We will try our best to talk to each other and exchange stories about our daily lifes at work and also to ventilate all the anger, disappointment or anything..haha

He likes to describe our relationship as' serasi'.
We compliment each other. I accept his lacks as what he is and does he so.

So, can't wait for 3pm. Going back to see my babies and have spa today!

Yeehaa! Bye!

Protective Hubby

Hi...

I wanna go to spa!

I wanted to go since my first baby lagi but there will always be halangan..haih..
Dah tentu la masa. Sebab my nature of job yang odd hours ni kan. Then recently sejak i joined private sector, my husband dah pesan awal-awal. Take your own sweet time and go for spa, facial treatment and london weight management! (damn, kata i gemuk la tuh!)

So today is my off day. Tomorrow i ll be working morning shift. I planned to go to the manjakaki reflexology yang kat
tesco ampang tu. I saw a lot of people queing there this morning when i went for groceries shopping, tapi i postponed the plan sebab bawak hajar as well.. Cane nak therapy oi..boring la dia menunggu nanti.

So after lunch, i texted hubby, minta izin nak gi sana. He didnt reply. He was in OT doing surgery. Waited...waited...4.40pm he went home and had his late lunch. He said "ok u can go but i am worried"

He said people nowadays are not trustable. He said he loves me so much and that is the reason i have to go to manjakaki tomorrow as he is oncall today...arggghhhh..

He will accompany me and wait there till i finish the session...hmmmm..

I love the fact that he is protective because of he loves me so much...but i wanna go for massage...huhu

K, lah...esok la...

Esok kalo sempat i update ya?...

Bye!

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I am depressed!

Yeah. I am depressed. For years I ve never tell anyone that I have stage fright. I have been avoiding public speaking forever. And after I joined this new workplace, public speaking is the last thing to expect but I am totally wrong. Damn!!!!!!

Someone from admin called.me up few days back. He told me I was given a task to give a helath talk on 'smoking'. Yeah, such an easy topic but it is still a public speaking. And the event will be held on my second day of night shift. I am totally pissed off beb.

The venue is somewhere at seri kembangan. I do not know where the hell is that place. That admin guy promised me that my roster will be shuffled so that I would not need to work on that day but it does not seems to happen.

Uurrgghhhh!!

I texted him few times asking about the target audience but that a*sho*e did not reply even once. So what I did was, I just put up pics, veey minimal words and so do the presentation later. I was told the allocated time given to me is 30mins but believe me it is gonna be less than 15 minutes!

I hate that guy so much. Feels like to strangle him. Idiot. He wants to get famous with the so-called health talk but I am the one who is gonna pay for it.

Haih...

Pm shift today. Ok bye.