I am triggered to write this post after readng one of my following blog wrote about wife should not helping husband for bread winning.
Okay, I dont agree. Looking from my perspective and my current family situation, i am not agree with that statement. I am not sure about other women who have an asshole husbands.
When I met my husband, during our early phase of relationship, he always pay for our food. We rarely went for shopping together at that time. Slowly i felt discomfort withcthe situation. Because i was looking for a man who can afford his girlfriend and subsequently his wife but with this great man(ececeh..hehe), i feelt it is a not right thing to do.
When i was in a relationship with my ex- boyfriend, he was a thrifty guy..konon.. Kedek beb! Let's say he paid for the lunch, when we want to order drinks, he will say"awak la pulak bayar. Nasi tadi saya dah bayar"... Oh my god! Can u imagine that?
So i left him after few months we were together.
With my husband, masa tu boyfriend lagi la kan. He was so kind. He paid almost for everything till i felt very guilty. Then i started to pay for our dinner or lunch. But he always decline my offer. He will say, takpe abg bayar. He really make me feel 'oh i want this guy so much. He must be my husband. Not other girls' husband!
So slowly we started to work things out together. How to recycle our money till we have enough money to get married. We get married while we were still a student you know?!
So when we start working, we join all our money together in one joint account. But we will put aside some amoun(same amount for both)as our saving in our own account. So the joint account will be akaun cair. It is used to pay bills, rental pay, groceries shopping, loans and for shopping!
And we feel so blessed that whenever we say duit,we will say duit kita instead of duit abg or duit ayg.
There is no issue on nanti husband cari other woman and sia-sia my pengorbanan of sharing money. I am not God and i never know what will happen in the future but. We(husband and me) had and still trying our best to maintain our relationship.
We always remind ourselves:
1. Do not fight for small things.
2. Do not argue for prolong period. 10mins is enough
3. Do not put your ego more than everything. Always apologize.
4. He will try his best to be the best husband as what Islam says
5. I have to try my best to be the best wife as what Islam says.
In shaa Allah if we always doa, carry your responsibility, be fear in God..our marriage is safe.
Ok, good luck readers. U might have different perspective as your partner or spouse might be different from my spouse. But, never regret or disbelief in God. Always doa. In shaa Allah, Allah will make do. In shaa Allah. In shaa Allah.
Okay, I dont agree. Looking from my perspective and my current family situation, i am not agree with that statement. I am not sure about other women who have an asshole husbands.
When I met my husband, during our early phase of relationship, he always pay for our food. We rarely went for shopping together at that time. Slowly i felt discomfort withcthe situation. Because i was looking for a man who can afford his girlfriend and subsequently his wife but with this great man(ececeh..hehe), i feelt it is a not right thing to do.
When i was in a relationship with my ex- boyfriend, he was a thrifty guy..konon.. Kedek beb! Let's say he paid for the lunch, when we want to order drinks, he will say"awak la pulak bayar. Nasi tadi saya dah bayar"... Oh my god! Can u imagine that?
So i left him after few months we were together.
With my husband, masa tu boyfriend lagi la kan. He was so kind. He paid almost for everything till i felt very guilty. Then i started to pay for our dinner or lunch. But he always decline my offer. He will say, takpe abg bayar. He really make me feel 'oh i want this guy so much. He must be my husband. Not other girls' husband!
So slowly we started to work things out together. How to recycle our money till we have enough money to get married. We get married while we were still a student you know?!
So when we start working, we join all our money together in one joint account. But we will put aside some amoun(same amount for both)as our saving in our own account. So the joint account will be akaun cair. It is used to pay bills, rental pay, groceries shopping, loans and for shopping!
And we feel so blessed that whenever we say duit,we will say duit kita instead of duit abg or duit ayg.
There is no issue on nanti husband cari other woman and sia-sia my pengorbanan of sharing money. I am not God and i never know what will happen in the future but. We(husband and me) had and still trying our best to maintain our relationship.
We always remind ourselves:
1. Do not fight for small things.
2. Do not argue for prolong period. 10mins is enough
3. Do not put your ego more than everything. Always apologize.
4. He will try his best to be the best husband as what Islam says
5. I have to try my best to be the best wife as what Islam says.
In shaa Allah if we always doa, carry your responsibility, be fear in God..our marriage is safe.
Ok, good luck readers. U might have different perspective as your partner or spouse might be different from my spouse. But, never regret or disbelief in God. Always doa. In shaa Allah, Allah will make do. In shaa Allah. In shaa Allah.
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